tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-652113856727227960.post1502829839583084612..comments2024-03-28T05:11:05.361-04:00Comments on What about your saucepans?: A crisis of conscienceLindsayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10032023667222395286noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-652113856727227960.post-25339165739355841432014-09-19T06:05:32.909-04:002014-09-19T06:05:32.909-04:00Candid and honest that's what I love about you...Candid and honest that's what I love about you...stay true to yourself didn't you raise Danilos two sons from a very young age without question you've done enough already....perri.thomashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16126291784124410951noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-652113856727227960.post-44960345010454107972014-06-23T15:13:38.210-04:002014-06-23T15:13:38.210-04:00Lindsay,
Forget which side you represent, Domini...Lindsay, <br /><br />Forget which side you represent, Dominican or British. <br />What does your heart say?<br />And can you live with that decision?<br /><br />Ivy Velez Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-652113856727227960.post-51684132339690010482014-06-14T14:56:19.541-04:002014-06-14T14:56:19.541-04:00Thanks Rita.Thanks Rita.Lindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10032023667222395286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-652113856727227960.post-40950296197395735382014-06-14T14:55:24.507-04:002014-06-14T14:55:24.507-04:00Thanks for you comments - I see you understand the...Thanks for you comments - I see you understand the DR a lot!Lindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10032023667222395286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-652113856727227960.post-75104119294071904712014-06-14T12:58:31.313-04:002014-06-14T12:58:31.313-04:00Wow, Quite Bothered, your comments were not helpfu...Wow, Quite Bothered, your comments were not helpful. Would you call me callous and insensitive because I do not send in money when the Save a Child commercial comes on television? I don't know your life situation, nor do you know mine, but why don't you try to be more constructive in your comments? Obviously Lindsay is looking for ways to help without destroying her own life she has worked hard to build. Crazy Ritahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02034624524218675347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-652113856727227960.post-66947243754665545692014-06-14T11:26:27.626-04:002014-06-14T11:26:27.626-04:00by the way i love your blog, and can relate to it ...by the way i love your blog, and can relate to it a lot . first off i used to live in dr i learned the dominican ways family values and everything, i always been a woman to help out. But to be honest i don't think your being selfish at all, you are not mother theresa everyone has their battles and struggles, just as you stated you live on 600$ a month and I know thats not much just enough to get by, remember in dr there is thousands of kids in the streets who have the same situation does that mean you have to accept all these kids to your home i think you are not obliged to do so. that child gracias a dios as a woman who takes care of him but don't feel bad it is not selfish at all , a child is a "long term commitment" commitment . In dr what I don't like is that people want you to help them but then it turns to abuse, you get abused by your kindness. this is a child i understand but girl if you can't you can't if you dont want you don't want don't force it .Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-652113856727227960.post-64861670188932161242014-06-12T18:05:09.833-04:002014-06-12T18:05:09.833-04:00Thanks cheapchick. Danilo has two sisters, both wi...Thanks cheapchick. Danilo has two sisters, both with their own kids and neither earns much money. I did ask that but I was top of the list as have more than them. Interesting you say never signed on for that. No I didn't but Dominicans do. When you marry the man you marry the family and have responsibility for them too. Thanks for saying I am not selfish - I just want to do the right thing and the best thing for all.Lindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10032023667222395286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-652113856727227960.post-2949545690647180422014-06-12T18:02:50.440-04:002014-06-12T18:02:50.440-04:00Thanks Olga that could be a perfect solution to gi...Thanks Olga that could be a perfect solution to give him a chance of a fabulous life. I will talk to his parents.Lindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10032023667222395286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-652113856727227960.post-5865743636345650672014-06-12T17:57:26.511-04:002014-06-12T17:57:26.511-04:00Wow, what a huge mental burden. You can't hel...Wow, what a huge mental burden. You can't help how you feel, that is just how you feel. You already are doing so much for Chevirico. So so tough. No answers here, just wanted you to know that you are not being selfish by what you are feeling. Are Danilo's sisters in a position to help? You never really signed on for that when you got married. Cheapchickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15158208632054014311noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-652113856727227960.post-44749898723696900922014-06-12T14:21:08.083-04:002014-06-12T14:21:08.083-04:00Praying for you darling Lindsey ! Your open and si...Praying for you darling Lindsey ! Your open and sincere thoughts are normal to anyone who finds herself in this type of situations ! You can talk to the father (as tutor) and tell them about CONANI, to put him into the adoption process. USA families looking for beautiful children as some do not have one and want a child ! - maybe this prove to be a solution ? Well being of this child will be 100% secured ! He will have a future !<br /> Olganoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-652113856727227960.post-50832702254657965022014-06-12T12:23:14.887-04:002014-06-12T12:23:14.887-04:00Goodness it has nothing to do with being half Hait...Goodness it has nothing to do with being half Haitian. His mother is absolutely gorgeous and could be a model. The issue is that we live on around US$600 a month, I am not getting any younger, and if we take the child on it is a responsibility for life. I just feel we are stretched so much as it is I am not sure I can do it. The post was meant to explore the Dominican attitude to looking after family members children versus British attitudes.Lindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10032023667222395286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-652113856727227960.post-13091833580672818952014-06-12T11:42:22.235-04:002014-06-12T11:42:22.235-04:00@Bothered, I guess that's why the point was ma...@Bothered, I guess that's why the point was made that the child is half-Haitian. Not so much concern there, and that attitude is quite prevalent in DR. Briennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-652113856727227960.post-19029317593838504332014-06-12T08:37:09.418-04:002014-06-12T08:37:09.418-04:00Thanks for your support. I remember when I first s...Thanks for your support. I remember when I first started helping Chivirico someone mentioned that you could not just begin with a child and then stop. Once you start you need to remember that the help should be for life - another reason that there is only so much you have to give as you need to have that commitment.Lindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10032023667222395286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-652113856727227960.post-65014443100687239882014-06-12T08:35:02.742-04:002014-06-12T08:35:02.742-04:00Sorry it will be your last visit. I just try and b...Sorry it will be your last visit. I just try and be honest about what is going on in my life and value the opinions of those who read the blog. I think I could have been accused of being callous and insensitive if I hadn't allowed him to come here at all and didn't try and think of the best solution for everyone.Lindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10032023667222395286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-652113856727227960.post-67943462878292006762014-06-12T08:33:17.480-04:002014-06-12T08:33:17.480-04:00Danilo's son is no longer with her, but she se...Danilo's son is no longer with her, but she seems happy to look after Albert and he seems happy enough with the situation, although he loved being here for the weekend. Danilo visits him once a week where he is.Lindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10032023667222395286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-652113856727227960.post-13558305445849866982014-06-12T08:31:42.382-04:002014-06-12T08:31:42.382-04:00Yes I think that is the current plan. Some weekend...Yes I think that is the current plan. Some weekends and some time in the holidays.Lindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10032023667222395286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-652113856727227960.post-56400090088379384402014-06-12T08:31:02.057-04:002014-06-12T08:31:02.057-04:00Thanks for your answer. And no, the kid isn't ...Thanks for your answer. And no, the kid isn't on the street.Lindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10032023667222395286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-652113856727227960.post-2478196988507936832014-06-12T08:30:14.675-04:002014-06-12T08:30:14.675-04:00Good plan.Good plan.Lindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10032023667222395286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-652113856727227960.post-25760691620643505292014-06-12T01:56:28.576-04:002014-06-12T01:56:28.576-04:00Ahhhhh Quite Bothered, that's a bit harsh. Th...Ahhhhh Quite Bothered, that's a bit harsh. This lovely lady has persevered in her life and her marriage in the DR, despite being shot, has aided and assisted her husband's extended family and local community on many occasions, has changed the life of one child - Chivirico… and she has concerns about taking in her husband's half-nephew'??? Come on now...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-652113856727227960.post-9419025888082229862014-06-11T19:54:13.937-04:002014-06-11T19:54:13.937-04:00Wow ,I always love your blogs and stories until to...Wow ,I always love your blogs and stories until today. Your attitude towards this child is actually appalling a, callous and insensitive. Yet you can give Chivrico the world and advocate so strongly for him but this child is indispensable. Just know if anything bad happens to him your conscience will get at you. Just wow. My last visit to this blog Quite Botheredhttp://www.yahoo.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-652113856727227960.post-57720470694204191362014-06-11T08:27:41.411-04:002014-06-11T08:27:41.411-04:00Wow, this is a powerful dilemma. I understand you...Wow, this is a powerful dilemma. I understand your point of view and I also understand Danilo's. I was married into an Italian family for 25 years and know how strong the pull of family responsibility can be. <br /><br />If it were me, I would welcome the child into your home for short periods of time, maybe at weekends or school holidays. I would worry that the friend that is looking after him might get overwhelmed and decide she can't deal with it anymore. Hopefully then with this compromise, Danilo will feel like he is fulfilling his commitment to the Dominican expectations and the feeling of guilt will be easier to deal with.<br /><br />I do totally understand your feelings though! Best of luck.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07387365855971854219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-652113856727227960.post-60592023652958701602014-06-11T01:28:05.518-04:002014-06-11T01:28:05.518-04:00Kick a few bucks to the lady who is looking after ...Kick a few bucks to the lady who is looking after him… you seem to have such a special connection with Chivirico and (yes, this is going to sound HORRIBLE) this kid might not be the best influence, through no fault of his own…<br />he DOES have this lady who is looking after him, he is not on the street…<br />Re-reading this sounds so callous but it is truly what I think. Best of luck with whatever you decide to do.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-652113856727227960.post-33563956788193370652014-06-10T22:06:00.246-04:002014-06-10T22:06:00.246-04:00Guilt is not from God. Pray until you absolutely ...Guilt is not from God. Pray until you absolutely KNOW God has given you an answer.Memargehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13952183409582479560noreply@blogger.com